Rewire Yourself for Happiness

Dandelion Flowers“Happiness is not something ready made.  It comes from your own actions.”  Dalai Lama

It’s not always easy to feel good inside.  However, having wrestled with depression and anxiety as a child, I’ve come to agree with those who believe that happiness is a choice.  That being said, it can still take effort to find your way back to the sunny side.  It’s important to work towards happiness because how we feel impacts everyone around us.  As Dr. Sharon Forrest said, “When one hurts, we all hurt.”  Said another way, when you shine, you illuminate the world!

As a hypnotist, my favourite ways to re-program for happiness are as follows:

Every night, just before falling asleep, imagine yourself in a beautiful, peaceful and natural setting. With a smile on your face, repeat a positive affirmation ten times.  Do this for 31 days.

During the day, repeat an affirmation with joy in your heart for two minutes while tapping the raised part of your sternum (your thymus).  Tapping will energize you immediately.  Also, when you do this daily for 31 days, science has proven that this technique will rewire your neural network for happiness.

In an email, I received some other great ideas from Dr. Mercola:

Write a Pleasure List

Write a list of simple things that give you pleasure… and do them at least a few times a week.  Carving out the time to do some of those simple little things will reinforce your belief that life is indeed good.


Rather than viewing exercise as a tool to lose weight, prevent disease, and live longer — all benefits that occur in the future — try viewing exercise as a daily tool to immediately enhance your frame of mind, reduce stress and feel happier.

Eat Light and Eat Right

What you eat directly impacts your mood and energy levels in both the short and long term. Whereas eating right can prime your body and brain to be in a focused, happy state, eating processed junk foods will leave you sluggish and prone to chronic disease. Ditto for over-eating, which can leave you feeling bloated and sluggish.

Take a Cold Shower

Exposure to cold temperatures via cold water may offer health-boosting benefits for virtually everyone. Taking a cold shower increases your circulation and helps minimize inflammation. It also tends to leave you feeling energized and invigorated

Talk Less Listen More

Talking less and listening more can help increase heart-centered communication. Listening helps you soak in the wisdom of others and allows you to quiet your own mind at the same time. Intent listening can help you feel content while helping you gain different perspectives.

Get Sun Every Day

Getting safe sun exposure, which allows your body to produce vitamin D, is great for your mood. Getting a little bit of sun on bare skin each day is better than spending hours outside on the weekends only.

Turn off the TV.

Evidence shows cutting back on TV time can add years to your life. Watching TV also has a detrimental impact on your brain chemistry. Instead of turning off your brain, why not turn off your TV and mindfully engage in something from your list of pleasurable activities?


You don’t have to be an artist to be creative. Creativity can take any form, from gardening to cooking, to dancing and singing, to taking up a new hobby.

Enjoy Nature

Spending time in nature is an excellent mental health “prescription.” And while you’re at it, take off your shoes (as long as it’s safe to do so). Walking barefoot, grounding yourself to the earth, has a wide range of health benefits, over and above the simple feeling of connecting with Mother Earth

Know the Simple Truth About Yourself

Positive self-talk and mantras can play a role in cultivating more happiness. Say to yourself, like you mean it: “I am enough, I am worthy, I am good, I am loved.” Believe it!

Express Gratitude

Harness the positive power of gratitude by keeping a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health.

Laugh It Up

Laughing causes your body to release beneficial chemicals called endorphins, natural “pain killers” that contribute to your sense of well-being and may counteract the effects of stress hormones and cause blood vessels to dilate. So, if you’re going to watch TV, why not make sure it’s something really funny?

Let Go of Grudges

Forgiving and forgetting is necessary for your own happiness, as holding a grudge means you’re also holding onto resentment, anger, hurt and other negative emotions that are standing in the way of your own happiness. Letting go of a grudge frees you from negativity and allows more space for positive emotions to fill in.

Treat Everyone with Kindness

Kindness is not only contagious, it’s also proven to make you happier. When you’re kind to others, your brain produces feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters such as serotonin and you’re able to build strong relationships with others, fostering positive feelings all around.

Regard your Problems as Challenges

Change your internal dialogue so that anytime you have a “problem” you view it as a challenge or a new opportunity to change your life for the better. Eliminate the word “problem” from your mind entirely.

Dream Big

Go ahead and dream big, as you’ll be more likely to accomplish your goals. Rather than limiting yourself, when you dream big you’re opening your mind to a more optimistic, positive state where you have the power to achieve virtually anything you desire.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

If the issue you’re mad about will be irrelevant a year, a month, a week or even a day from now, why sweat it? Happy people know how to let life’s daily irritations roll off their back.

Speak Well of Others

It may be tempting to gather around the office water cooler to get and give the daily gossip, but talking negatively about others is like taking a bath in negative emotions; your body soaks them up. Instead, make it a point to only say positive, nice words about other people, and you’ll help foster more positive thinking in your own life as well

Avoid making excuses

It’s easy to blame others for your life’s failures, but doing so means you’re unlikely to rise past them. Happy people take responsibility for their mistakes and missteps, then use the failure as an opportunity to change for the better.

Live in the present

Allow yourself to be immersed in whatever it is you’re doing right now, and take time to really be in the present moment. Avoid replaying past negative events in your head or worrying about the future; just savor what’s going on in your life now.

Wake up at the same time every morning

Getting up at the same time every day (preferably an early time) is deceptively simple. Doing so will help regulate your circadian rhythm so you’ll have an easier time waking and likely feel more energized. Plus, the habit of rising early every day is one shared by many successful people, as it enhances your productivity and focus.

Don’t compare yourself to others

Your life is unique, so don’t measure your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you. Even regarding yourself as better than your peers is detrimental to your happiness, as you’re fostering judgmental feelings and an unhealthy sense of superiority. Measure your own success based on your progress alone, not that of others.

Surround yourself with positive people

The saying “misery loves company” is entirely true. That’s why you need to choose friends who are optimistic and happy themselves, as you will be surrounded with positive energy.

Realize that you don’t need others’ approval

It’s important to follow your own dreams and desires without letting naysayers stand in your way. It’s fine to seek others’ opinions, but happy people stay true to their own hearts and don’t get bogged down with the need for outside approval.

 Nurture social relationships

Positive social relationships are a key to happiness, so be sure you make time to visit with friends, family and your significant other.


Meditation helps you keep your mind focused, calms your nerves and supports inner peace. Research shows it can even lead to physical changes in your brain that make you happier.

Live minimally

Clutter has a way of sucking the energy right out of you and replacing it with feelings of chaos. Clutter is an often-unrecognized source of stress that prompts feelings of anxiety, frustration, distraction and even guilt, so give your home and office a clutter makeover, purging it of the excess papers, files, knick knacks and other “stuff” that not only takes up space in your physical environment, but also in your mind.

Be honest

Every time you lie, your stress levels are likely to increase and your self-esteem will crumble just a little bit more. Plus, if others find out you’re a liar it will damage your personal and professional relationships. Telling the truth, on the other hand, boosts your mental health and allows others to build trust in you.

Establish personal control

Avoid letting other people dictate the way you live. Instead, establish personal control in your life that allows you to fulfill your own goals and dreams, as well as a great sense of personal self-worth.

Accept what cannot be changed

Everything in your life is not going to be perfect, and that’s perfectly all right. Happy people learn to accept injustices and setbacks in their life that they cannot change, and instead put their energy on changing what they can control for the better.

Wishing You Light, Love and Laughter!
Elizabeth Rose Diamond Lantern


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    I had a quick question which I’d like to ask if you do not mind. I was interested in knowing how you center yourself and clear your head before writing. I’ve had a tough time clearing my mind and getting my thoughts out. I truly do enjoy writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are lost just trying to figure out how to begin.
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      Hi Susan,
      Thank you for your comment. Pay attention throughout the day to what captures your imagination and make quick notes. Later, simply jot down, very quickly, what you heard, or what’s on your mind, without analyzing or correcting any words or sentences. Research it to flesh it out. Write as if you were telling a story to a good friend. Write 300 to 500 words then reflect on them to see if you’ve delivered your message. After that, edit like crazy to make it interesting. Read it aloud to see if it flows. Perhaps ask friends and good critics for honest criticism to see if it will enhance your writing. Then get your message out there.
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